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I've been a perfectionist all my life. And its probably fair to say that it has been both a blessing and a curse.

As a child, I would drive myself (and my mother) crazy trying to get my school book drawings just right. I would rub out my sketches again and again, until the page would rip, making me cry in distress.

Perfectionism has given me an eye for detail, driven me to work hard, demand high standards of myself and probably achieve more than I would have done otherwise.

With tango, I am no different. I feel the need to know exactly how to do something down to the smallest detail and I get frustrated if I don't have complete dominion over it. And I sense that among my fellow tango dancers and students, I'm in good company. Although tango attracts all different types of people, I believe that it's subtleties and complexities often attract people who like to delve into the detail and get things just right.

And surely this is a good thing? The detail makes up the whole after all. And it has certainly helped me to understand tango on a deeper level and, as a teacher, helped me convey messages to my students.

However, perfectionism can be an affliction for a dancer and needs to be kept in check. Here's why.

Nobody's Perfect

We've heard it many times and we all know it is true: there is no such thing as perfect. So it shouldn't come as a surprise to us that the pursuit for perfection is likely to end in disappointment.

And this is so much more the case in dance (or indeed in any other performance art).

Let's say you're writing a novel. You know there is no such thing as perfect - there are many, many ways you could approach each paragraph - but at least you can go back and modify, tweak, even delete large swathes of your work. In dance, every moment counts and once that moment passes, there is no way to go back and recuperate it.

In tango, perfection is even more elusive. Tango is an improvised dance and as such is destined to be full of many little imperfections. The follower has no idea what the the leader will lead from one moment to the next. The leader himself usually does not know what he will lead until just the moment before.

As beginners, we can get quite anxious about making mistakes. However the more experienced we become, the more at ease we begin to feel with them. It is not uncommon - and it is actually quite charming - to see a couple make a mistake on the dance floor and giggle about it. And it is certainly better than seeing them look distraught!

I always remember Osvaldo Zotto - my partner's maestro and mentor and with whom I also took classes - once told us: the most important thing in tango is not to avoid mistakes but to resolve them.

And as Al Pacino famously said in that classic scene from Scent of A Woman:

"No mistakes in tango, not like life ... It's simple. That's what makes the tango so great ... if you make a mistake, get all tangled up, just tango on"

Perfectly Imperfect

Rather than get frustrated with our imperfections, we need to embrace them. Tango can in fact be more beautiful because of them. In nature, there is no such thing as perfect. A perfectly straight tree for example would lose its beauty.

And I’ve fallen in love with many tango performances that I’ve watched despite the fact that I notice their technical imperfections. This is because they convey an emotion, express musical nuances or have a beauty or uniqueness of their own which transcends the need for absolute perfection.

Although interestingly, I’ve never been quite so forgiving of my own imperfections!

Creative Flow

Another problem with the desire for perfection in tango is that it can block our creative flow. If you are practicing a movement on your own, you can work on it to the minutest detail until you feel that you have completely mastered it. But when you are dancing, you need to balance the desire for perfection with the importance of feeling and expression. I’m sure I’m not alone in finding that the more I allow things to flow and let go of control, the more I allow moments of inspiration to arise.

Self-Belief

Perfectionism can also make you feel negative about yourself and self-belief is a vital element of dance. It’s not about arrogance or vanity, but simply enjoying the movement that you are creating.

You only need to look at the world of sport, to see the importance of self-belief to performance. Sports commentators are always talking of the impact of psychology on the outcome of a match: the battle of wills between tennis players, the blow to a team’s morale if a goal is scored just before half-time. A negative thought can make a footballer miss a penalty kick; positive thoughts can help a runner win a marathon.

If you have a constant negative narrative in your mind - continuously correcting your technique, telling yourself that it wasn’t good enough - this will have a negative impact on your dance. And it will certainly have a negative impact on your enjoyment of tango.

Perfection Is Subjective

Something I’ve learnt over the years is that your perception of how you dance is entirely subjective. There have been times when David & I have given a performance that on a personal level we were not happy with, but then have been surprised by the positive response we’ve received.

The converse has also proved to be true: we have done performances where we have felt things flow, the connection, the magic happen. And yet, we didn’t feel afterwards (either from the applause or the comments we received) that anyone had noticed anything different.

One dance which is commonly thought to achieve perfection is classical ballet. After a lifetime of gruelling dedication to your art, and being at the top of your game, surely perfection is possible?

I’m lucky to have as a friend a principal dancer of the Royal Ballet. World famous, she is considered to be one of the best dancers of her time. Off-stage she is a lovely, modest person who speaks openly about her professional experiences. A few days ago, I watched a televised performance of her pas de deux. And I felt the sudden need to delete this entire blog post!

Perfection Exists! There it is! In front of my eyes!

And then I remembered something. We had been to see her perform that very evening. The video cameras had been there. And afterwards, over dinner, she had told us that she had felt a little “shaky”, that she wasn’t used to cameras filming her for such a serious ballet and it had disorientated them all a little.

No evidence of this can be seen in the breathtaking footage, but it seems that to her at least her performance felt very different.

So when you inner voice starts to judge how you are dancing, try to remember that your perception will most probably be very different to the perception of others.

Finding A Balance

I can usually identify fellow perfectionists in my classes. They often are pretty down on themselves as dancers (despite the fact everyone loves to dance with them!). They usually make exceptional progress, but don’t recognise it because of their perfectionistic nature. They easily get dispirited.

It’s a delicate balance to tread. As perfectionists we are our own worst critics. We should aim to harness our perfectionism to help us fulfil our potential but also be aware of its pitfalls. We need to know when to draw the line and enjoy. Remember that to be imperfect is to be human and:

“Imperfection is beauty, madness is genius and it's better to be absolutely ridiculous than absolutely boring.”

— Marilyn Monroe

Tango has had a tumultuous journey.

It was born in the slums of Buenos Aires in the late 19th Century. It enjoyed a Golden Age in the 1930ʼs and 1940ʻs only to go into decline in the 1950s. It somehow survived a military dictatorship when it was outlawed and it may well have died completely if it had not been for a group of dedicated “milongueros” who kept the culture alive.

Towards the end of the 20th Century and now in the 21st Century it is enjoying something of a revival. Tango has once again become the worldʼs darling. Blinking it has stepped out of the darkness and into the light. And it has discovered that since its heyday, the world has changed.

The Age of Chivalry is seemingly over. Women have won the Battle of the Sexes. Can tango - a dance which is essentially all about a man being a man, a woman being a woman - survive in this new world?

Every Friday and Saturday, I welcome Beginners to tango for the first time. Most work in the West End and the City and are still wearing their suits from the office. Many are looking for something to distract themselves from their demanding professional lives.

I explain to my female students their role as a follower in tango: there can only be one leader and one follower! Try not to anticipate, try not to think! Focus only on the guyʼs chest and allow your movements to tune into his.

And every week, they respond with words to this effect:

“Iʼm not sure I can do this following thing!”

“Iʼm used to telling him what to do!” [smiling playfully at their partner]

“Itʼs not in my personality to follow. I keep leading.”

And I always think, thatʼs a relief! I would be pretty worried if they chirped: “EASY! Iʼm so used to being told what to do, this should come naturally to me!”

However, after a few weeks, these strong-minded professional women are all following. Why? Because tango is completely improvised and if you have no idea what your partner is going to do next, you quickly learn the futility of trying to lead.

Beaten into submission? Not at all! It is an amazingly beautiful and therapeutic experience to tap into your feelings, not your thoughts. To let yourself go and allow yourself to be carried through the music.To give up control. A tango lasts three minutes and when the music stops, the leader and follower stand apart as equals.

And it strikes me that perhaps tango has a very important role to play in modern life

A very dear student of mine is a consultant doctor in intensive care. Despite having enormous stresses in her every day life, she always makes time for her tango class. Her profession demands such an overwhelming degree of responsibility from her, that to her it is a blessing (indeed a need) to be able to give up responsibility for just a few minutes ... or a few hours if she dances all night!

Another (male) student of mine, said something very interesting the other day after class. He said how he felt that tango allowed him to be entirely masculine for a few moments and he was surprised how much he enjoyed this. And I know that there are many women who also enjoy that tango gives them an open invitation to be completely feminine.

And it occurs to be me that perhaps in this day and age of gender equality, we at times feel the need to explore our masculinity/femininity without fear of this being frowned on or impinging on the equal rights that we have fought so hard for.

I am aware that this blog could be misconstrued as anti-feminist. So I just want to make it clear: as a woman there is no other age that I would prefer to have been born in. In my motherʼs class at school, most of the girls were expected to become housewives, teachers, nurses or secretaries. Despite this my mother became one of five women to attend law school. However, after qualifying as a solicitor, she was unable to get a mortgage or buy even a radio on credit, because she didnʼt have a male guarantor. And this was as recent as the 1960s! I was brought up to be incredibly grateful that women - at least in the Western World - are treated as menʼs equals.

But I love the romance of tango and have found that I love being unashamedly feminine. And there is nothing that makes me feel more feminine than tango.

In any event, Tango in the 21st century is not as politically incorrect as it may at first seem.

Tango is much more about chivalry than machismo. As I mentioned in my last blog post, the leaderʼs objective in tango is to make the follower feel WONDERFUL. It is about guiding the follower, not demanding of her. A good leader doesnʼt just lead, he also listens. He is sensitive to what the follower needs and the more experienced you become in tango, the more dance begins to resemble a two-way conversation.

A leader who insists on leading movements that the follower is struggling to understand is frowned upon. So just as much as the follower tunes her movements into the leaderʼs, a leader must adjust his movements to the follower. And the result is a perfect harmony between two people.

And to really silence any critics, in recent years, it has become acceptable to explore the other role in tango. Are you a woman who would prefer to lead? No problem! Same sex tango or tango with inverted roles (the man following, the woman leading) can be found in most tango communities around the world. It is not uncommon to have ladies in our classes who, having learnt the followerʼs role, would now like to explore the leaderʼs role. Or a leader to try his hand at following, either as a means of improving his leading or simply because he enjoys it. In fact, in our classes we often replace the words “men” and “women, with “leaders” and “followers”.

Tango a dance for the 21st Century? Absolutely!

It is one of the curses of dancing tango that you will find yourself misunderstood by all but a small collection of fellow tango fanatics. It is something that we tango dancers learn live with. Family members, colleagues, even very close friends, will ask well-meaning but totally misconceived questions.

And we canʼt blame them. We know that not everyone in the world will fall head over the heels with tango (although secretly we wonder why). And we know that tango - contrary to popular belief - is not a mainstream dance. Sure, youʼll find it in Hollywood and on Strictly but thatʼs not the real tango. Thatʼs a pantomime, a caricature of the real dance.

Then there is that rather unfortunate coincidence that it shares a name with ballroom tango, leading people to believe that the two dances must in some way resemble each other. Most tango dancers I know internally cringe to think that anyone they know think that this is what they dance every weekend!

Most people have no idea of what tango is really about. And although a lot of us want to shout out to the world how amazing tango is, in some ways we like it that way. We like tango - real tango that is - to be a little underground, like being part of a secret club.

So what is the truth about tango?

EXTERNAL APPEARANCES

Tango is utterly beautiful to watch. You knew that. But did you also know that it is how tango feels (for you and your partner) that is just as - if not more - important?

Tango is not just about external appearances, but about an amazing connection between two people. A connection that simmers beneath the surface so that it is barely visible to anyone outside of the couple.

It is often said that tango has a lot in common with martial arts and tai chi in particular. There have been studies drawing parallels between tango and transcendental meditation.

MACHISMO

Tango has a reputation for being a macho dance. And surely it is so: the man leads, the woman follows. Thereʼs no way round it. But did you know the lead is more about guidance, listening and communication, than giving orders? “Push” and “pull” are words you will not often hear in a tango class. “Invite”, “breathe”, “lift” are more commonplace.

And did you know the lead is all about making the follower feel AMAZING. That is the leaderʼs prime objective. What could be better than that?

SERIOUS AND SAD

Tango is always so serious. But is it really? There is another side to tango that is playful, upbeat and flirtatious. It is multi-faceted. Like a person, it doesnʼt have just one mood.

And even when itʼs mood becomes more brooding, it doesnʼt necessarily make you feel sad. There may be times tango makes you feel nostalgic or melancholic, but I find that this is in a cathartic kind of way, like watching a sad film.Most of the time, however, it does nothing of the sort. In fact, tango can take you away to another place, giving you an unparalleled feeling of escape, bliss and even at times euphoria. It is not uncommon to see a couple on the dance floor, gripped a close embrace, cheek to cheek, and each with a dreamy smile on their face.

Tango is like an onion: the more layers you peel off, the more you discover to enjoy. And one thingʼs for sure, youʼre never going to discover the truth about tango by reading a blog. Youʼre going to have to find out for yourself!

As a a Beginner told me just the other day, after his third or fourth class:

“Tangoʼs nothing like what I expected it to be. But itʼs so much better.”

As a tango teacher surrounded by students, I often think how wonderful it is to have just found tango with all those amazing discoveries ahead of you. For many people, the first few years of studying tango is a little like falling in love. You wake up in the morning and you immediately start planning how youʼre going to dance that day. You never leave the house without your dance shoes “just in case”. And your non-tango friends start to get a glazed expression whenever the subject turns to tango ... which is often!

But the path is not always smooth. Learning a new skill can be tough. You will have your setbacks - days when things donʼt seem to work, days when you have to deal with a not-so-tactful partner. And one common complaint is that of conflicting information.

You may already have already gone through it: youʼre told one thing by one teacher, only to be told something else by another. You accept that tango will take a while to master and youʼre happy - more than happy - to spend your free time learning it. But if you hear one thing, spend hours working on it, only to be told what appears to be the complete opposite, it can be quite dispiriting.

So I thought it would be useful to talk about the issue of conflicting information, why it arises and how best to deal with it.

The Tango Rule Book

If youʼre thinking “the The Tango Rule Book? Iʼve never heard of it, I must get hold of it”, Iʼm afraid Iʼm going to disappoint you. Unlike some other dance forms, there is no tango rule book. Yes, you can buy tango books, instructional DVDs, but, just like when you take a class, they will just tell you how they do it, how they have been taught. There are no official rules in tango and most of us “tangueros” like it that way.

Tango is a little bit like folklore ... it is passed down from generation to generation for those who love tango and are committed enough to study it. Yes, this can mean that it is a little less structured than some other dances and yes it can sometimes mean that there will be some differences in opinion as between teachers, but it creates a much more free, more creative dance. No one is worried about be penalised for having a little finger out of place, and in my opinion, this has allowed tango to breathe and grow into the wonderful dance that it is today.

But it is not total chaos. As I said, tango is passed down from generation to generation.`It has a core, an essence and once youʼve dedicated time to tango youʼll be able to recognise when something just is or isnʼt tango, what is correct (and there can be different versions of correct) and what is definitely not correct.

Other Dance Forms

But we canʼt pin everything on the fact that tango doesnʼt have a rule book. Even in the most structured of dances, youʼll find different schools, styles and methodology. In ballet for example, there are different schools: English, Russian, French and so on. And even within one school, one teacher may differ in the detail from another.

So itʼs good to know that weʼre not alone in tango!

Different Approaches

Sometimes it can appear that you are receiving conflicting information but in fact it is just a different way of explaining the same thing. It sounds like this would be very obvious, but you would be surprise how long it can take for students to realise this.

Here is a simple example to illustrate this. It is a real one - students, even those who have been dancing for several years, have come to me with this.

Letʼs imagine you have three teachers A, B & C and they are all trying to explain how to turn the torso in order to pivot:

-Teacher A tells you to move your shoulder backwards.

-Teacher B says you should use your back muscles.

-Teacher C says that he initiates the movement in his abdominal muscles.

The students in question were left feeling confused. However, if all three teachers got together and compared their techniques, they would probably agree that they are doing the same - or very similar - movement, but just thinking of it in a different way. Their point of departure may come down to which way works best for them as dancers or how to best to convey the movement to a student.

The Studentʼs Language

A teacher may adapt their teaching to speak the “language of the student” - i.e. what they think that individual student will understand. This will differ according to the experience level of the student or the type of learner they are.

For example some students might find it easier to be given anatomical information - e.g. to lift their abdominal muscles. Another might better grasp what to do through an analogy - e.g. to imagine they are zipping up a pair of jeans. It is one of the challenges of a teacher to find the explanation that will work for you - the explanation which will be your “light bulb” moment.

So if suddenly youʼre given an anatomical explanation after previously visualising an analogy, it might seem like youʼre learning a brand new concept, but it is simply a different way to describe the same thing.

Simplification or White Lies

A teacher may choose to simplify information in order to give it to you in more bite-sized pieces - so as not to confuse you at the stage of development they perceive you to be. In fact it is not uncommon for a teacher to subsequently say “Remember I once told you that you always have to do such and such ... well, actually, there may well be times ...”.

This is less confusing when you have continuity with this teacher over a period of time. They will then have the chance to give you the full story or develop the concepts when they feel itʼs the right time for you. Unfortunately, however, it can give rise to considerable confusion where you donʼt have that continuity.

Context

Sometimes it can appear that you have received a conflicting piece of information but what it really comes down to context. It is important for every student to be aware that what they are learning is often context-specific.

In one class for example, a teacher might be focusing on working with a strong dynamic. If in a subsequent class youʼre then told to tone down the energy, you might feel a little perplexed. But in fact, the first teacher may have just been suggesting you use strong energy in certain contexts - as an option for varying the feel of the dance.

Different Styles

It is important bear in mind that with any teacher you will inevitably be learning their style, their way of doing things. It would be a very boring world if we all danced the same! If you are confused that two teachers have told you to do something differently, simply watching them dance (in the milonga or performance) can be very revealing!

Of course, there will be some stylistic differences that are not visible from the outside. For example the amount of energy to put into the embrace or into the outstretched arm. Just as every person is unique, so is the feel of their embrace. And the fact that every partner feels different only enrichens our tango experience.

In certain matters it may come down to deciding which style you prefer or perhaps which style feels more “You”. Or why not be a magpie, collecting different tips and stylistic points from different dancers to help make your dance unique?

Ask Why

Sometimes students tell us that they have learnt something from another teacher - say a visiting teacher from Buenos Aires - but that they canʼt understand it or that it conflicts with their prior understanding. Our first question in these cases is whether they asked the teacher “why”.

If the conflicting information automatically makes sense and works for you, then this is not issue. You probably wonʼt feel the need to ask “why”. The problem arises when a student canʼt make head nor tail of it or when it seems to be just as valid, yet different, to what they had previously understood. This is when “why” becomes important.

You may not like to be seen to be questioning a teacherʼs authority. This is understandable. However a good teacher will not be rattled by questions and will actually be pleased you are asking them. In my experience most questions that start: “this is probably a stupid question ...” are the complete opposite! And even if it is basic, anyone who is passionate about teaching will be empathetic and appreciate the importance of your question even if the answer does seem obvious to them

The “why” will enable you to really understand what you are being asked to do and give you a proper chance to compare it to your original understanding. It will help you decide if any of the reasons above (different approaches, style, context etc) apply and make a choice as to whether youʼd like to incorporate it into your dance.

Find Your Own Path

As dancers, we are all unique. Movements, techniques and styles will all suit our temperaments and bodies differently. It is difficult when you are a beginner, but as time goes on youʼll increasingly be able to find your own path. To become a discerning student.

Over the years, you may even find your tastes change - that you prefer different styles - or that as your understanding of tango deepens, youʼre able to adopt new ideas that previously you werenʼt ready for. Adapting the way you dance as time goes on is not necessarily a backward step - it is part of the learning process and can be fascinating.

And the more we see things as options, ideas - not gospel - the more we can get down to the very serious business of enjoying tango.

Find a Mentor

In all of this, it is good to have a mentor, someone you can always ask when you get confused. We encourage our students to come and tell us what they have learnt from other teachers. As they often get the chance to take just a few classes with another teacher, confusions are common. Tango is a rich and complex dance and you will never learn all a teacher has to offer from just a few classes. But having someone you can bounce ideas off, can really help to piece together the little pieces of information you have received to make a fuller picture.

So there it is. I hope this post will help you deal with any confusions you have on your tango path, paving the way for an easier, smoother and more enjoyable journey!

We are still on a high from our Winter Ball at the end of 2014. The event was a sell-out and £1,000’s were raised for children’s charities in Argentina and the UK.

The Old Finsbury Town Hall, Islington, was magically lit and filled with the haunting notes of top bandoneon player, Victor Villena, accompanied by the tango quartet, Los Mareados.

We were heart-soaringly proud of our group of Students who, after 3 months of rehearsals, gave a wonderful performance in our Student Show.

And for David & I it was as always a joy to perform in such a beautiful setting.

For those of you who may have missed our photos on Facebook or in our Monthly Newsletter, here is a selection that capture the atmosphere of the night:

The Chronology of a Perfect Evening


Waiting for its guests: the Baroque hall


Welcome to the ball! Fairy lights to light your way


Angels watching over the dance floor


Nibbles between dances

Your host: David Benitez

Dj wizard: Diego Doigneau

Virtuoso: Victor Vllena

Tango works its magic on the dance floor ...




Backstage: Tango Movement students preparing for their show ...

Last minute rehearsals ...

Tango Movement students: Gaelle & Winston

Tango Movement students: Natalie & Andonis

Tango Movement students: Denise & Winston

Tango Movement students: Jo & Pedro

Tango Movement performance in full swing

Performance by David & Kim Benitez






Thanks to everyone who came and helped create such an amazing atmosphere.

Until Next Year ....

“Buenos Dias” I chirp as I climb into the back of the black and yellow taxi cab, escaping the merciless Buenos Aires sun.

I tell the driver my destination and wait for the inevitable “De donde sos?” (“Where are you from?”). I have been speaking Spanish every day for the last 12 years but Iʼve never been able to hide my accent. Disappointingly, Iʼm usually caught out at “Hola”!

But this time, the taxi driver seems more interested in talking about the weather: “Que se nuble! Que se nuble!” (“Let it cloud over! Let it cloud over!”) he groans. I smile as I think of my envious friends and family back home in cold, wintry London and say: “Now thatʼs something you donʼt hear too often in my country!”

From then on, I pretty much know which way our conversation is headed. Iʼve had the same such conversation in almost ever taxi journey Iʼve ever had in Buenos Aires. And believe me, thatʼs a lot of journeys!

The script usually runs along the following lines:

Taxi Driver: So where are you from?

Me: England. London

Taxi Driver: What are you doing here?
Me: Just on holiday. My husbandʼs Argentinian.

Taxi Driver: How did you meet?

Me: I used to live here and we met then.

Taxi Driver: What were you doing here?

Me: Iʼm a tango dancer and I came to study tango.
Taxi Driver: [Incredulous] An English girl dancing tango! Why would an English girl want to learn tango?!

It might seem strange to you that this should be the typical reaction in Buenos Aires. Yet, most Argentinians find it difficult to believe that around the world people in their thousands are taking up their dance. Especially when the reality is that the vast majority of Argentinians have never danced a single tango step!

Contrary to popular belief outside of Argentina, it is simply not the case that most Argentinians dance tango. Yes, there is a wonderful, thriving tango scene in Buenos Aires - bigger than anywhere else in the world - but those that dance are a tiny minority of the population. To many Argentinians, tango is something that was danced by their parents or grandparents and rejected by the young. Tango fell out of fashion around the same time as couple dancing also went out in Europe and the USA at the end of the 1950ʼs.

And so it comes as a surprise to them to hear that tango is back! Itʼs alive and kicking not just in their own country but around the world.

Yet still they are resistant to the idea. Tango belongs to Buenos Aires! It is as much part of its culture as Big Ben and double-decker buses are to London. How could someone who is not from Buenos Aires understand it? Tango is something that they seem at once fiercely proud of, yet somehow also dismissive of. Hence amazement that a foreigner should take such trouble to learn it.

Thereʼs no doubt that tango as a dance is intricately and inescapably entwined with its rich, cultural heritage. So how do I answer my driverʼs question? Why would an English girl want to learn tango? (Or even - ahem - dedicate her life to learning tango?)

And the answer seems clear to me. Because if you strip away the history, the lyrics, the culture of tango, you will find aspects of tango that are of universal appeal. Aspects that transcend tangoʼs place of birth and make it a dance that the world will fall in love with over and over again:

Universal Truth 1

TANGO IS A BEAUTIFUL DANCE TO BEHOLD: the harmony between the couple, the strong yet elegant masculinity, the wholehearted femininity, the aesthetic lines, the fluid movements, the intricate footwork playing with the musical nuances.

Universal Truth 2

TANGO IS A BEAUTIFUL DANCE TO EXPERIENCE: when we dance tango, we tap into fundamental human needs: to escape from the daily grind, to let go, to express ourselves spontaneously through music, to play, to create, to be held, to connect with another person.

And it dawns on me that there are some things that we all think of as uniquely part of our culture but which in fact happen everywhere. Taxi drivers the world over will talk about the weather. And the world over, a man and woman will feel moved by music to hold each other closely and dance.

Thatʼs tango. It belongs to Buenos Aires and it is embraced by the World.

Every year, a small group of Tango Movement students get together a few months before our Winter Ball to start preparing for our Student Show.

The Tango Movement Student Show has gone from strength to strength since its start in 2010 and has become known as the best of itʼs kind in the UK! It has also become one of the highlights of our Winter Ball.

Rehearsals take place around 2-3 months before the ball. The group meets just once a week (twice a week as the Big Day draws closer) and have the challenge of learning a choreography - a surprisingly difficult thing for dancers who have spent years learning to improvise!

The group needs to absolutely together so a great deal of effort goes into making sure that they all move as one ... and donʼt inadvertently kick each other!

The training is not always easy. There are often a few emotional wobbles during the rehearsals. But there is also amazing sense of camaraderie, focus and anticipation.

D-day always generates different emotions amongst the students. Some become incredibly nervous beforehand, only for calm to descend when the moment arrive. For others the exact opposite occurs!

And just as nervous as the performers themselves are their teachers - David & I - watching from the sidelines.

But however we feel before or during the show, the sense of euphoria once the show is over is shared by all! And the champagne can start to flow!

This year, our group comprises students from our Advanced, Intermediate and Improvers classes. There will be both veterans from previous years and brand new faces. We are incredibly excited about their performance this year and we are so looking forward to cheering them all on!

GOOD LUCK GUYS!

Watch the Video of Last Yearʼs Show with Backstage Footage

 

A few months back, we were teaching at a Tango Festival outside of London, where tango aficionados travel long distances to take part in workshops and dance the night away in the festivalʼs “milongas” (tango nights).

The atmosphere was electric and the dancers warm and effusive. One guy, however, stood apart.

I recognised him from our previous years at the festival. This year, as in the past, his expression throughout our classes was stormy. It seemed that however much he tried and despite our guidance, his movements were awkward and robotic. I admired his persistence but felt his frustration.

Saturday night was the Festivalʼs Grand Milonga and it was well-attended. Couples glided and twirled around the dance floor, torso to torso, cheek to cheek, to one beautiful tango tune after another. At the end of the night, as the tired but contented dancers began to drift off the dance floor, ready to return to their rooms, the DJ started playing some rock and roll. The mood changed and the festival-goers, mustering up one last ounce of energy, started to fling themselves around to the 1950ʼs beats.

One dancer, again, stood out. A natural dancer, he could give Elvis a run for his money. Yes, it was Mr Stormy from our classes. It was incredible to see his transformation. He was the centre of attention and we all watched him with a smile on our faces.

The next day, in class, I saw him battling away again. I decided to mention to him that I had seen him the night before and that I knew he had it in him to dance. Something lit up behind his eyes. He said, “I donʼt know where it comes from - it just kind of happens”.

I remember the same feeling when I started to dance tango. Deep down I felt I had it in me to dance - and I knew I could from dancing at parties - but the movements were unfamiliar to me and they felt imposed and unnatural.

As time passed and I dedicated more time to tango, the movements became part of me, my outlet, in fact my only way of really expressing the way the music made me feel.

I told Mr Stormy to trust that things would start to work for him. Everyone feels robotic to begin with. How can it be otherwise when we are trying to programme our body to do things it has never considered doing before? And the body, feeling that it is doing something new, automatically tenses up, exacerbating the situation.

Feeling robotic is not necessarily a bad thing. OK, it is not exactly what we had in mind we decided we would learn to dance! But I like to think of it a little like painting by numbers. At first we learn the movements, working out their path, not necessarily understanding why we are being asked to do things in a certain way. By the end of the process we have created a beautiful drawing, and it begins to make sense to us. Then we add the paint (in my mind the music and the expression), and suddenly we have a work of art.

The process of programming our body to do new things will feel a little mechanical, but it is important that we clearly instruct our body what to do. It is when we do this that we can really begin to feel and express ourselves through the movements.

So whenever weʼre learning a new movement, we should expect (and embrace) the robotic stage. It may feel awkward but, with time - and maybe when youʼre least expecting it - the movement will settle and soften until it feels like a part of you.

It’s hard to believe but it’s that time of year again!

Our Winter Ball 2014 is just under two months away and anticipation is already mounting for the most glamorous event of the year!

Our Ball is now in it’s fifth year. Not only is it fantastic for us as a School to have something to look forward to each year, but it is also amazing to be able give back to the country that gave us tango

Once again the Old Finsbury Town Hall, Islington, will be magically lit and filled with the haunting notes of bandoneon player Victor Villena (Gotan Project) - who will be travelling from France to be with us that night.

Victor will be again teaming up with British quartet Los Mareados. And we will be in the expert hands of DJ Diego Doigneau in between live sets.

Rehearsals are now under way by a small group of our students who will be performing in our Student Show. The Show has become a real highlight of the Ball. To whet your appetite, have a look at last year’s performance:

David & I will also be performing as we do every year. And there are few places that feel more atmospheric to dance than in that beautiful ballroom surrounded by our students and friends.

When your feet are tired and you need a pause, you can wander through to the Council Chamber and enjoy the Argentine food and wine that will be on sale and browse our latest collection of Comme Il Faut tango shoes

This year, the funds raised will go to help children in need in both Argentina and the UK:

(1) Hombre Nuevo - a charity for the homeless in Cordoba, Argentina

(2) Doble Ayuda - a charity giving educational support to children living in poverty in rural Argentina and (

(3) the UCL Michelle Zalkin Scholarship - funding a Masters degree in Child Health and Child Protection.

And finally, let me leave you with this little taster, a montage of one of our past balls

We can’t wait to see you there!

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As a tango teacher, I often feel that I get a little window into my students’ tango experiences.

They tell me how they get on at the milonga, the comments they receive, the dances they had. I hear about their highs - when everything just seems to work, to fly - and I also hear about their lows. Of the days when nothing seems to work. So how do we beat these frustrations?

Well, one thing’s for sure, we all have “those days”. The days when our legs turn to lead, our core to jelly and our confidence plummets to new lows. I can assure you that even those people who you would swear never have a bad day - the ones that seem to pick everything up straight away, that everyone wants to dance with - also have “those days”. I know because they come up to me at the end of class and tell me!

So as a teacher and as dancer who has had her own fair share of frustrations, here are my 10 tips for getting through the tango blues:

  1. Frustration Motivates
  2. A lot of the students who are the most hard on themselves, actually end up becoming better dancers for it.

    When you get frustrated, however unpleasant it can be, it gets you motivated. True, frustration can block progress if it gets out of hand. And it certainly isn’t a good thing if it takes over your enjoyment of tango.

    But if you’re frustrated it means that you care deeply about getting better, and this in turn helps you focus, work harder and achieve more. So tell yourself that next time you feel frustrated!

  3. We’re Humans not Robots
  4. To expect yourself to perform exactly the same every day, is to place unrealistic standards on yourself (which in turn leads to more frustration).

    We’re human beings, not robots. Every day when we wake up, we feel slightly different. Sometimes we wake up with a spring in our step, sometimes we feel down. Sometimes our muscles just seem to be tighter for no reason or our patience short. It’s just the way things work. So why would dancing be any different? In fact dancing is an activity that encompasses the mind, the body and the soul - how can we expect the interaction between these elements to be the same every day?

    And when comparing humans and robots, I know who I would prefer to dance with.

  5. Passion v. Patience
  6. When you’re passionate about something, it often means you want to learn it really quickly - you want to dance tango and you want it NOW - and this can lead to frustration. Passion and patience are not easy bedfellows.

    So there you have it, you’re frustrated because you’re a passionate person. And if you want to dance tango, being passionate is a GOOD thing!

  7. Enjoy the Journey
  8. It sounds like a cliche but it’s important so, sorry, I have to say it!

    When you learn tango, you’re very much on a journey of discovery. And that journey actually does not have an end. The more deeply you study tango, you more you discover there is to learn. It is an exciting and satisfying process, so why would you want it to stop?

    Focus on your journey, not on your perceived end goals (they will continually shift anyway).

  9. Talent is Just Practice
  10. Was there someone at your school who never seemed to have to work and just sailed through with high marks? There was always one wasn’t there? But that’s just it, there was usually just ONE.

    The majority of us need to work at something to get good at it. When you see someone dancing beautifully and effortlessly on the dance floor, you don’t see all the hours of time they’ve put into achieving that, the practice in front of the mirror at home, the classes attended, the videos watched and yes, most probably, the self-doubt.

    You don’t see the blood, sweat and tears - you just see the final product.

    One famous golfer was quoted as saying: “the harder I work, the luckier I get”.

  11. Every Dancer Has Limitations
  12. Even in the professional world of dance, it is very rare to find a dancer who has everything: the flexibility, the strength, the stamina, the co-ordination, the artistic expression.

    Everyone has their own individual limitations as a dancer. But everyone has something unique to offer. The sooner you accept and embrace your limitations as a dancer, the sooner you’ll allow yourself to become the dancer you can be.

    I’ve always found this quote from Martha Graham inspirational:

    “There is a vitality, a life force, an energy, a quickening that is translated through you into action, and because there is only one of you in all of time, this expression is unique. And if you block it, it will never exist through any other medium and it will be lost.”

  13. Who Says You Should be Able to Do It?
  14. What actually is going on in our head when we get frustrated? If we get to the crux of the matter, it is usually a little voice that’s saying: “Why can’t you keep your balance ...” “why can’t you remember to do such and such ...” - a little voice that is saying “You should be able to do this by now!”

    The trouble is we don’t often question that voice. Who says I should be able to do it NOW? Who set this arbitrary time frame? Perhaps that voice is putting unreasonable demands on you?

    Give yourself and your body the time you deserve to learn a new skill. All things in life that are worthwhile take time and dedication.

  15. The Plateau Illusion
  16. Sometimes the fact that you feel you have reached a plateau - or even have made backward progress - can be a sign that in fact you are making progress. It is a sign that you are now more aware of what you need to improve. This is the first step in the process of correcting something.

    There is a recognised four-stage process to learning any new skill:

    Unconscious Incompetence
    Conscious Incompetence
    Conscious Competence
    Unconscious Competence.

    Feeling “consciously incompetent” is not a particularly enjoyable experience, but it is the first and necessary step in mastering your skill.

    Remember also the learning progress is so gradual that you don’t always feel or see it happening. I like to think of it like a plant growing. You might not see it growing but by the end of some weeks or months, there’s a definite change.

  17. Let It Go
  18. On the days that things don’t work, it seems that the more we try the worse it gets. So stop trying too hard. Breathe, close your eyes (if you’re a follower!), let the music sweep through you and ENJOY. Don’t demand too much of yourself ... you’re having a bad day!

    Again, I love this Martha Graham quote:

    “It is not your business to determine how good [your dancing] is nor how valuable nor how it compares with other expressions. It is your business to keep it yours clearly and directly, to keep the channel open. You do not even have to believe in yourself or your work. You have to keep yourself open and aware to the urges that motivate you. Keep the channel open. ... No artist is pleased. [There is] no satisfaction whatever at any time. There is only a queer divine dissatisfaction, a blessed unrest that keeps us marching and makes us more alive than the others.”

    Everything is transitional. If you accept its not your day, things might just start to flow a little more.

  19. Look Forward To Your Next Good Day

I always think that if you’ve had a bad day or even a few bad days, you’re due a good day soon. And when that good day comes it feels incredible, all the more so because you finally feel liberated from the frustration.

Savour the good days, you’ve earned them and they’re worth it.

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