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The "B" Word

This blog post is all about the “B” word.

Don’t worry, it’s not the word you’re thinking of! You’re safely inside a pure tango, Brexit-free zone.

It’s another “B” word that I’d like to write about, and it has been a long time coming.

Hardly a week goes by without someone mentioning this word to me.

And my advice?

Don’t say it, don’t even think it!

Because the moment you do, everything starts to go downhill ….

The “B” Word

Let’s paint the scene.

You’re having a wonderful night at the milonga. The atmosphere, the music, the dances. And then a thought unbidden enters your mind.

“Is she getting bored dancing with me?”

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My students ask me this question so frequently that I honestly believe there can’t be too many leaders out there who have not had this thought.

And in many ways it is a good sign. Caring about your partner’s dance experience is a positive trait, reflecting a healthy desire to give as well as receive.

But the thought invariably triggers a change in your dancing. And not unfortunately the change you’re hoping for.

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